I'm suffering from a little writer's block at this point so I figured I'd just wing it this time. Sometimes if I just start writing what comes to mind it helps ideas flow. So I'm just going to post a few random thoughts I had today.
First- what's with switches? I understand different strokes for different folks but I seriously cannot see where these people are coming from. To me- you either have a dominant personality or a submissive personality. Maybe I just feel that way because I know for sure I am submissive- anyone who knows me ,there is no question about that! I could never be anything else. I would be unhappy if I was- hell, I was unhappy for a long time because I tried to supress my submissive side. I was taught to be strong my whole life- told women are strong and independant! I come from a family with very strong minded women. So growing up I felt out of place for not wanting to be strong and in control! I thought there was something wrong with me- that I was weak for wanting someone else to take control. Since I found this "lifestyle" I finally feel normal for once! I can be me- I can be submissive. I can be sweet and caring and not be considered weak. That is my personality and I embrace it now.
Anyways- maybe it's just me but it seems switches are more playing a role. I know most say they lean more towards one side- they're 90% dom and 10% sub- what? Pick a damn side! They're not being true to themselves! I think in every relationship- whether friendship or a romantic relationship- people assume roles. There is always one that is more dominant and one that is more submissive- that's just the way it happens. Kind of like a pecking order- it's natural to fall into one of those roles. I don't see how you can go from wanting to be in control of one situation but decide in another situation you want to take a back seat. But again- that is just my opinion.
Second random thought today- why is it that most Dom's I've come across find it hard to believe I am intelligent? Are submissive women out there really that idiotic? I don't know how many times people have said to me- I don't think you are truly submissive. What- because I have a brain and I use it? I speak my mind, stand up for myself? That doesn't mean I'm not submissive- it means I am intelligent, nothing else. Sorry- I'm not one of those women that submits to any man just because he says he is dominant. Isn't that kind of boring? Doesn't it mean more to you for a woman to submit to you because she respects you and trusts you enough to want to submit to you, please you? Or would you rather have a woman that will give into any mans demands because she can't think for herself? To me it doesn't mean as much if you submit to anyone- it doesn't show you want to please your partner- it just shows you want to please men in general- not one man! Am I crazy for thinking this?
Ok- rant over for the day. I'll try to work on this writer's block. Well there is something that is truly putting a damper on my thinking skills right now! I wish I could write about that but now is not the time. Maybe I can share later :)
