Another punishment :( But it's actually a good one I think hehe. I have to discuss my hard limits and why I have them. Basically all my hard limits are things that just don't do it for me and never will. Plus they really freak me out LOL. I know- to each his own. That's fine if you are into these things- they're just not for me.
So hard limits- needle play, blood, scat, no watersports of any kind. Diapers, enemas, pony/puppy play, animals and children of course! Again- fine with me if that does it for you- but no I will never be taking part in any of that. Things that don't do it for me but am open to if my partner enjoys it- electrical play, age play- I'm talking like college student/professor or high school student/teacher. Antything younger- like baby or little girl- out of the question. Also I'm not really into verbal humiliation. If the reason for the verbal humiliation is to "put me in my place"- I think physical humiliation is just as effective if not more so. Not to say you can't call me slut, bitch, dirty girl etc. That's fine- I just don't like put downs like "your pathetic" "your worthless" etc. No- I'm not worthless or pathetic and I wont put up with that. If your showing me who is in charge- do it another way. It's just as effective to have me walk around naked or sit at your feet or have me bend over exposing everything. To me that works better than saying someone is worthless or saying things like "fuck you"- that just gets to me emotionally and doesn't make me want to submit- it makes me want to fight back and tell you off. Also- I'm a sub, not a slave. I don't want to feel worthless or less than. I'm a person- don't degrade me emotionally. Physically, fine- you want to act like I'm nothing but a sex object- great, actually that could be fun in some ways. But don't mess with my emotions and put me down. Make sense?
I might have forgotten some hard limits- there's so many different things out there that it is hard to remember them all. So that is why communication is key- I think I have a right to say at any time "nope- not happening", after all it is MY body. So at this point everything else not listed is open for negotiation and I'm willing to try. How else am I supposed to know if I will enjoy it or not? I've done a few things now that I thought were limits for me in the heat of the moment and actually enjoyed them! So- hard limits- definately no question. Everything else- open to trying once to see if I like it and then decide if it is for me or not.
Well- went over limits, how about things I am really interested in trying or know I like? Bondage, rough play, spanking, hair pulling, dirty talk, rules and tasks, biting, floggers, paddles, some role play- not all the time. I prefer me to be me and you to be you. Blindfolds, sensory play, wax, face slapping (not hard enough to leave a mark or even for me to feel the next day! Just a little playful slap) Not sure if I would call it breath play- just a little pressure, not completely cutting off oxygen.
OK- let me clarify again what I am looking for LOL. Maybe I'm not explaining myself properly. When I say I'm not looking for a LTR- I don't mean I'm just looking to hook up with random people all the time! There has to be trust there- a connection, something! I just mean I don't have to find a "boyfriend"- doesn't have to have that label. It can be a Dom/sub Master/slave dynamic. If it develops into more- great!, if not- fine! but there does have to be trust and respect there. If your going to be tying me up and spanking me, using a flogger- damn straight I better know and trust you! To me D/s is about more than just a physical connection, sex. It goes deeper than that- I think if anything you need to be great friends first. A partner in crime- someone you can confide in, know they are not only looking out for themselves but you as well.
Also- I'm taking this seriously. I am seriously looking for a Dom. So if I am discussing things with you at this point and am opening up to you- I find there is a connection there. I will be honest- at this point I am chatting with two individuals- both great people. I'm not chatting with others and not looking to chat with others right now because as I said I am taking this seriously. I'm not just looking to play games and flirt via IM. I have to say- both great people and there might be a connection there with both. Same kinks, personalities mesh well. So here I go- being open. I don't like to chat with more than one person, I can't read minds, I can only take it so far myself- so if you like me come get me! LOL I'm not good with subtle and I know some don't like you chatting with others at the same time- again I don't get subtle- I'm a ditz. So at this point if you feel a connection and want to see if we get along- the ball is in your court :)
