Passion vs. Love

Passion- any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling. Strong sexual desire; lust.

Love- a profoundly tender affection for another.


I finally figured out why so many don't seem to understand me or think I am only looking to be in a "loving" serious relationship. For one- if my personality type, INFJ, truly is only 1% of the population (which seems very unlikely) no wonder so many have an issue understanding me. Second- I think most have been mistaking my passionate personality for wanting a deeper connection. Just as I mistook cockiness for confidence- I think most mistake my passion for life in general as a need for love. As you can see by the definitions above they can be viewed as the same thing but if you look closer you will see the difference. Passion can be ANY emotion- not just love. You can be passionately angry, passionately committed, passionate about your work, passionate about your family, passionate about your friendships.


Passionate- that is me, end of story. Every emotion and every action in my life I live with passion. I am compelled by so many things in my life- I feel passion every moment of every day. I can't help it, it just happens. Emotions just pour out of me- I am passionate about every aspect of my life. So even in friendship I am passionate. I give my all- I dive in head first, I leave nothing behind. So in a lifestyle like BDSM- if I'm talking with someone and they don't know me very well; Like if it is our first time meeting in person or chatting over IM- my passion for life and everything in it can be viewed as love or needing a "loving" relationship. I see now why so many ran in fear! They have told me I need to look for a LTR and not just a play partner- they think I want more. They're probably thinking "whoa lady slow down there. This is D/s ok? Not a vanilla relationship." I have heard that from numerous people- "you know D/s relationships are different from vanilla relationships, right?" Yes people! Believe me I get it. My question to all of you is- you know there is a difference between passion and love, right? Apparently everyone I've talked to doesn't- they just think I'm some crazy psycho that can't separate love from sex. So not the truth. I just happen to be a very passionate person- always have been, always will be. I try to hold back as much as I can due to the comments I've received but I can't. Why should I have to hold back my emotions? Just because no one can distunguish the difference between passion and love? Hell- I even feel anger passionately as I'm sure you all know by now from some of my blog posts. I give in and let my emotions take over. I get angry and I let it out, I release it. I speak my mind and then it is gone, the wave washes over me and then I can move on to the next experience; the next emotion.


I am the epitome of one into the arts. If you have not been around a lot of artists then you have no idea what I'm talking about. But if you have you know that we are all very passionate individuals- at least in my experience. I think as artists we all view art in the same way- it is a release, an extension of us. I love to write and perform (dance, act). When I write or perform it is a release. All the passion I have in me comes out- with every word I write every line spoken on stage, every turn or brush of my foot while dancing is a release. I am sharing my passion with everyone out there that would like to read or view it.


You always hear of people in the arts or science being viewed as geniuses or mentally unstable or just odd. Ok- so maybe some were really mental, but I think a lot were just so overwhelmed with passion in some instances they needed an outlet to let out their emotions. Since most of society is not as passionate anyone that marches to the beat of their own drum is viewed as absurd. Edgar Allen Poe, Van Gogh, Beethoven, Picasso, Einstein, Darwin. All viewed as odd individuals who were said to have had mental disorders. Were they mental or just too passionate? Maybe a little of both- who knows. Wow- how did I get from passion vs. love to mental artists? My odd brain at work. But anyways- I am just that, passionate and I don't apologize for it. I just wish more would understand or took the time to understand where I'm coming from.